Let me put it this way. I don’t know the name of the band…may have been inxs ..but there was a song playing in the bar and i believe the lyrics were Desire…come and get it come and get it come and get it…around the time I was sexually assaulted in Tijuana..When I would hear that song or a similar song I would have a visceral reaction to it. I would feel fear and would want to run away inside. Obviously nothing is wrong with the song…it is the association to the assault that is the issue. Since the secret was revealed to me in 2011 there are voices I associate with the betrayal. Like fingernails on a chalkboard I do not want to hear them. I turn away and they always pop back up. There is no escape for me. The unpleasant association has been made, but they won’t let me move on with my life. They still try to control me, make me see things their way…Didn’t I see such and such movie? Don’t I understand how great they are? Can’t you see it doesn’t matter to me who you are or who you think you are? I watched countless people get fired or killed for being kind to me. I will not change my mind..even if they are not evil, the association has been made, similar to hearing that song. I need separation. Please go on with your life and let me live mine. I don’t care who you are in a union with or who you are married to. It is not my concern. Please let me go and leave me alone.